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Childhood abuse? Spend a day in my mind.

After the Royal Commission … most of us still remain unheard.

“The plaintiff has broad-ranging and chronic symptoms of persistent depressive disorder, from which he cannot escape.”

We, the Survivors of childhood sexual abuse, have been called many things. We have been called whingers and worse. But we are none of those things. We are you who were subject to experiences that most of you cannot even begin to imagine.

I am not asking you to walk a mile in my shoes, I am asking you to spend a day in my mind. Here’s but one day in the mind of a Survivor.

Depression is not a black dog. One black dog is easy to deal with. Depression is an ocean of black dogs who snarl and rip and tear at my bones.

When 35mm film runs across the cogs in a movie camera it makes a flickering sound. Flicker. Flicker. A movie plays across the inside of my forehead. I don’t want it to. But it does. Frame after flickering frame. No pretty filters to soften the view.

You are now looking through my eyes. You see what I see. You feel what I feel. You are in my mind. If I could swap places with you I would. All of the below goes through my head all of the time. I cannot stop it.


Can’t breathe, the bastard is pressing me down. He’s ripping me apart. Can’t breathe. Bless you my son. The punch smashes my ear.


I don’t know you. We are just meeting. You’ve just started to read this article. To me, until proven otherwise, you are a predator, you are a killer. Your eyes are measuring me, looking within, seeking advantage. I don’t, and cannot, trust you.

Women and men. You damaged me. I don’t trust you on first meet.

If male, are you a killer of women and children, a rapist of women and children, a shit dressed up in artifice?

If female, are you one of those rare killers of children, a mental torturer of children and men, a purveyor of malevolence?

I hope that you are none of those things, I desperately hope that you are none of those things, but history proves that some of you are. Are you one of them? Yet I’m human, I want friends. Loneliness is fucking awful.

I am absolutely hopeless at small talk with you. I’m on my guard, but I don’t want to be on my guard. I’m waiting for the attack. Who cares who is winning the cricket, who cares about that bargain at Aldi, who gives a shit about the weather and your new house and your new car and your view of how good you are? How about the murder of refugees in your name?

I’m about to swear a lot. Run away now. Trot trot for the shallow.

The freedom to say anything I fucking like. No editing. The freedom to say What Is, for me. Oh, he is such a gentle man, never says anything harsh. A real hippy.

Wow, what a couple of lines for all the psychologists and psychiatrists of this world to peruse. Some are good, but ha, the others. Case study wet dreams for their bookish edification. Haven’t lived it, they don’t have a clue, chasing their own intelligent tails around in circles. Fucking me off with their useless techniques and their games.

Haven’t sworn so much in all of my life.


Her punch shatters me, rocks me, here’s another hail mary, she does it again, the belt whips, god delivering love, oh boy the nuns of christ, the nuns of fucking christ. If I could hide I would, I can’t.


That movie plays on the inside of my forehead, it is on a never ending re-loop. Flicker. Flicker. I have to look through it to see you. You are out there, we are trying to meet, trying to talk, trying to connect, trying to have a coffee. I am sick of what the bastards did to me, sickened by what the bastards did to me. I write. I write. I try to reach you.

Damage. Worst seen. Worst expected. Worst received. Damaged. Where’s the exit from the bloody cinema?

Birds fly free, freedom, the lift of the wind, beautiful lucky little winged shits. Soaring in the sun. Beautiful lucky little winged shits.

Women are killed all the time, they know what rape feels like, society makes no more than a passing reference to that but oh we do have jobs and growth for the mindless. I am not killed all the time, what do I know, I know what being raped feels like.

The last 67 years of living? Jesus Fucking Christ I want my trip money back, I want a refund. I want to be four years old and starting all over again.


You. You with your white collar and your church and your phallus. You predatory scum. If you weren’t dead I’d kill you. I’m a shot child man. I’d fucking kill you.


Sitting at the table, looking out the window. Looking out the window. Desperately trying not to think.

Love. It spins faster than a neutron star. My children. Love.

Women, making love, making love, making love. Spinning faster than a neutron star.

Oh! So you are a Survivor of childhood sexual abuse? I’ll fix it up for you. Here’s three tears, how generous of me. Snuffle, snuffle, Parliamentary tearful apology be grateful. Job done. I’m sure I’ve helped. The head has been patted. Now piss off and don’t mention it again.

Mention it again. It killed us. No Survivor survives. Not a zombie movie, just ghosts of the living dead. We walk, we talk, our feet wade through molasses in a vacuum, stuck, stuck, stuck.

Go shopping. Try to appear normal. Hide in the crowd.

I feel your pain, I feel your pain, I look into your eyes and I feel your pain. No you don’t. Rejoice in the fact that you don’t feel my pain. You are a lucky sod.

Beauty, the blue sky, the grass, the trees, a woman’s smile. Will she see my damage? I can love you know, it is not an impossibility!

Get up in the morning. Sit on the verandah. Stare at the sky. Go to bed after dark. Get up in the morning. Sit on the verandah. Stare at the sky. Go to bed after dark. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

I do not recognise your authority over me. I will fight you. You will not defeat the bit of me I have left.

That amazing thing called truth that everybody says that they want. Truth is, they don’t. They want the veneer of it that’s all.

Australia is a fascist country, that’s truth. Aboriginals are treated like dirt, that’s truth. We torture refugees who flee our bombs, that’s truth. Tinder is a fuck-fest for the brainless owners of ovaries and balls, that’s truth. Take note nuns and priests: if you fuck a child you will fuck them up for life, that’s truth. Nobody gives you a tax break without somebody else probably the poor having to pay for it, that’s truth. You won’t escape, AI and robotics will eventually blow you out of your job, that’s truth. Men like sex, women like sex, men fuck, women fuck, that’s truth. That’s truth. That’s truth. That’s truth.

What’s truth?

Oh, we are getting married! That white dress, that pin-striped suit. The church is bigger than a cathedral. Blessed by an unknown priest I could kill. I wanted succour at your breasts, I wanted your beauty, and your love, and your friendship. I failed. We ended.

Oh, we are having a relationship. I like your passion, your guts, your practicality. Let’s move away and start afresh. You in the fields, a sight to behold. I failed. We ended.

Oh, hello there. We both carry damage, we are both aware of that. We understand each other. If I could buy your zest for life, I would. Let’s give it a go. I failed. We ended.

I wanted security, and love, and family. I failed. We ended.

Depressed. They saw me as I am. Depressed. Joyless. Ended. Swimming in an ocean of black fucking dogs.

Depression kills relationships. Wish I’d read that when I was four years old, wish I didn’t have a future need to read that when I was four years old. Wish the nuns and priests had read that when I was four years old. The bastards couldn’t read, wouldn’t read, didn’t want to read. The bastards were too busy fuck-killing children to read.

What’s truth?

So you think that my blue eyes are piercing, and that they look right into you. They don’t. They are watching the movie that is running on the inside of my forehead. I am trying to see you through the flickering of the frames. No Oscar for me. I didn’t want to be in the movie.

Plod plod. Go to work. Stick on a smile. Plod plod.

Light up another cigarette. Suck the breast. Suck for comfort. Light up another cigarette.

In my time did nuns and priests screw each other. Yes. Did priests screw each other. Yes. Did nuns screw each other. Yes. Did upright community matrons in all their frocked and gloved hatted finery deliver casseroles and head jobs to their venerated local neighbourhood priests. Of course they did. Did nuns screw orphanage old boys. Yep. Furtive thrusting. So if the bastards received all that sating why did they come after us?

Write an article. How come I can do that yet I can’t step forward and do other things?


That’s a nice tall fence. Orphanage fence. Clinging to the top looking down the entrance road. Will they come and get me out of here? Nuns circling in the background, Sisters of Mercy, you’ve got to be kidding me they call themselves the Sisters of fucking Mercy, clawed hands reaching out.


Hello Lawyer person. I’m so desperate for justice, for damage to be undone. Thank you for running your I believe you script. What a legal actor you are, it drew me in. What? Do I have any money? No I don’t. Oh, ok then, I’ll piss off.

Don’t talk about suicide, the squeamish will cringe. Bang. Bang. Maybe nirvanah, probably not. Time is painless, but very long. Hang on, hang on, it might get better. Better than what?

It is quite true. All you find at the bottom of a bottle is the view of the bottom of a bottle. Let’s have another Shiraz. Let’s not. Didn’t needle, the thought was never attractive simply because the thought was so attractive. Can’t smoke the Dope, it rushes the movie into starker focus.

Men are lucky. One of the most beautiful things in life is to be there, right there, when your child is born. The little eyes try to open, the little fingers curl around your thumb. But we are not lying back there thinking that shit I’ve just had ripped out of me something ten times the size of Manhattan! Men are lucky. One of the most beautiful things in life is to .…

Hey Keith, you are supposed to be this happy long-haired hippy person. You’ve got a Kombi and you wear Indian cheesecloth shirts but I don’t want to talk about anything real with you because that would mean that I’d have to momentarily drop my own shallow mask too.

You cannot be helped. Well I sure as shit had hoped for a better response than that!

Bloody hell. Here I am at a party with a glass of wine in my hand. There are all of those other people here with a glass of wine in their hands as well. All those eyes. I’m anxious. I’m afraid.

Roll up, roll up, grab your popcorn, take your seat, dim the lights. Here’s a movie produced for you by the media arm of catholocism, by god’s holy rolling fuckster company pty ltd. They’ve directed thousands of movies. Many thousands of movies. Survivors are the unheralded Stars.

You are a beautiful man, and I love you. Am I? Did you?

Friends fade away from me, I fade away from friends. I can’t small talk. My talk is intense. I talk about what I see, can’t do otherwise.

There is always the dog. Zoe the dog. Beautiful loving Zoe. Bullshit speakers say that dogs don’t have a spirit. Bullshit speakers are wrong. Zoe became dead after I did, what a conundrum that is, because I’m still alive and she is not.

Predatory male on a dark night street. I’m not a predator. I’m a male. Why are you afraid of me? I’ve met a few predators in my time. I’m the one full of fear.

Hello famous celebrity type person. You’ve got to be kidding me! Someone called you a name and you are going to sue them for two million dollars! In a comparative sense of damage done then I and other Survivors should be able to sue for 10 billion dollars each for fuck’s sake! But oh, I do see your point, you are a celebrity after all, and society is far more interested in the insignificant slight you suffered than they are in the fact that our childhood vaginas and anuses and mouths were stretched and ripped and bloodied by stiffed-up clerical cock. So please accept my apology for playing down the immense amount of suffering that you went through. Gosh, you were called a name. It must have been awful for you, it has probably wrecked your whole life. I feel your pain. Here’s your three tears back. Oh, you’ve stubbed your toe as well.

Lonely lonely lonely lonely. If you have a companion do you value them? I sure as hell would.

Beauty. How do you measure that? When a woman looks you in the eye and throws you the biggest shit-eating grin that you have ever seen in your life, then you will have just seen the most beautiful thing you will ever see in your life. If she does it twice you just have to tap dance down the corridors of love.

Hello next Lawyer person. I’m so desperate for justice, for damage to be undone. Thank you for running your I believe you script. What a legal actor you are, it drew me in. What? Do I have any money? No I don’t. No problem. Glad to hear it. No Win No Fee. I’ll bare my soul to you. Come in spinner! Here’s your pittance. Fuck off. Apology? Don’t be silly.

At the height of erotic and loudly proclaimed mutually enjoyed passion I never mirrored the screamed out request from the woman to ‘fuck me dead’, because I figured that it must have been pretty obvious to both of us that, in my case, somebody had already beaten us to it.

Children, children, children. Love them. Protect them. Die for them.

Sitting at a desk writing. Keyboard thump. Keyboard thump. Keyboard thump. Writing truth, writing open truth, writing unfiltered truth, writing swearing truth. Just skimming the fucking surface. The well’s much deeper than that.

Many people who have not had a hard life like to say that they did. They go pretty quiet when you show them what hard really looks like.

Standing in the middle of the road with my placard. Save the ABC. Save the World. Save the Universe. We are all behind you, you say. Hang on a sec while I turn around. No you’re not.

Pillars of the community. You are aspirational arseholes. You’re sucking up to the god of greed, twenty houses isn’t enough, you’re shafting the poor, you’re voting for those I love god politicians, you’re a proud shareholder of a company that is polluting the planet, you’re a rich and fat and compliant drone, a killer of the future of our children.


Her fist smashed into my teeth. She cut my buttocks with the edge of her razor strop. She headlocked me and covered my mouth and nostrils with her sweaty fat hand. A bitch of christ. Take off your clothes, show me your waggle bits. That fucking bitch of christ. Thump.



Well hello young Altar Boy. Come into the Sacristy with me. Let me bless you. He did. With his seed. The bastard. The stinking-cocked holy bastard. Let me bless you. Keep your mouth shut or I’ll thump the living daylights out of you. I’m a priest, everybody loves me. I don’t. I hate you. I want to kill you. I’m a child. I can’t.


god. No capital G for that bastard. And those dumb prats sit in their pews and kiss his arse. Dumb prats who can’t think for themselves. Smarmy dumb prats. Kissing the arse of the venerated molesting priests.

I can look after and care for others. But not myself. I’m the movie, I cannot care for that.

Keep losing my jobs. Can’t get a job. So much wrong here. Everybody just puts up with it. I can’t stand it. Ha, social justice for the workers? Keep fighting with management. Sacked. Sacked. Sacked. None of you have beaten the little bit of me that is left to me. I’d rather be me than you.

Oh, sad sod, depressed sod, PTSD sodded sod. Chin up chap. Endure. Move on. One foot after the other. There’s gold at the end of the rainbow. Fake it until you make it. Here’s your six step plan. Silver lining and clouds. Think positively. Smile and the world will smile with you. What sort of idiot believes that nonsense?

Looking through that window I can see the ocean, the blue sky, the coastal strip, the buildings, the concrete, the greed, the exploitive middle class, the fascist rich. Beautiful view. Shit view.

Have a glass of wine. Eat a pretzel. Smile at your friend. Make appropriate eye contact. Whoops, that was too long, look away, look back, look away, look back. I’m not even fucking there.


Your special pants are dirty you skinny little shit. Shit-filled pants. Blood-filled pants. Semen-filled pants. And then she, the bride of christ, launches into me. Could kill her, I’m a child, I can’t. Punch. Punch. Another fucking punch. Be grateful for the love of god you skinny little shit.


Fathers. Where’s mine? Dead. Damaged by war man. Brain-box blown up by Japanese bombs man. Loved him.

Mothers. Where’s mine? Long dead. Dumped us all. Three years old and on her knee. What was she like? Who was she? Loved her.

Religion. Don’t make me laugh! Pillocks in pulpits. Rapists in pulpits. Killers in pulpits. god loves you. Bend over.

You ask me if I believe in god. I ask what put the need in you to believe in something that does not exist.

My anger at them is vaster than vast. Spewing out pointlessly into the sponge of absolute shitty nothingness. Blown away on the wind. Phut!

Oh, gosh Keith, you are so brave and courageous for sharing your story and not enough people do it and I am genuinely inspired by you and do you want to repeat all the lurid details especially the dirty bits please and I love who you are and I want to hug you and I hear you and I feel for you and I empathise with you and I think you are amazing and I also do the same for celebrities and movie stars and musicians who have died or been zapped and other people who I don’t know and neighbours who have been murdered and I drop lovely flowers on the spots where they all carked it or had things happen to them and I can cry on cue for the television cameras which they love and I love and which makes me look great and gets oodles of sympathy sent my way even though nothing bad actually ever happened to me and just because I’m a professional at mourning by proxy and a bit of a grief-fiend and even though I’m a you should bare it all for my wrapt delight workshop junkie it doesn’t necessarily mean that the flowers I just pinched from that most recent dead celeb’s shrine weren’t plonked down at your feet Keith with love and sincerity and care does it? “I wasn’t speaking to you. I don’t want your sympathy. I was speaking to people who can gut-stomach truth. So pick up your flowers and fuck off.”

According to tests that test such things I have a reasonably high level of intelligence. Yet, all things considered, I cannot even tie the shoelaces of my own life.


White habit and glaring eyes. The back-hand sent me sprawling. She grabbed me by the scruff of the fucking neck and shoved me into the cupboard. The darkness. The darkness. No wonder I cried in the Separate Prison at Port Arthur in Tasmania. My mind IS the Separate fucking Prison. My mind IS the Separate fucking Prison. My mind IS the Separate fucking Prison.


Get on the bus. Nobody will notice you. They will not be thinking anything. It will all be ok.

Fuck. You think this is all over the top? You’re getting the light polite version. The let’s not go the whole hog or really offend anyone version. Flicker. Redact. Hide. Hide. Gosh, you can’t say that.

Why did they weaponise their penises? Did they hate themselves that much?

Go the whole hog.

Survivors were fucked and beaten, fucked and beaten, fucked and beaten, over and over again. Thumped into the dirt and then the boot was jammed into our neck. Do you get that? The Royal Commissioner said that the problem with the catholic church was that they saw the rape of children by their clerics as a moral dilemma, but not as a crime. The church is still as sick as it ever was.

I’ve sworn more here than I have in my whole life. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck to the tenth fucking degree of the tenth fucking degree of that tenth of a fucking tenth degree of that tenth fucking degree. With piles of shit on top. We live with this stuff each and every day. And some of you call us whingers, and whiners, so fuck you if you do, and hello to you if you are a reasonable person who does not.

Do you dream? I don’t. Well I do, but they are never remembered. I wonder what I dream about? Early on my mind learnt to shut some things away in little boxes and that apparently is where my dreams go. That’d be an interesting little dream box trip, wonder what would be in there, free flying birds probably. I wish there was a box for the movie. How come that shit of a movie didn’t go into a little box? That’s a bastard of an unfairness.

Damage done. Neil Young sang about damage done.

Let’s go to church, let’s be seen to go to church, let’s be the pillars of our communities, let’s get into politics as well, they’ll pay us to fuck them up. Let’s give them a mantra, they suck that shit up.

Hello therapist. Hello psychologist. Hello psychiatrist. Can you fix me up? So I’m not bi-polar. So I was not rendered asunder. So I’m not psychotic. So I’m not a denizen of Bedlam. So you can’t fix me up. So what I see is fucking unfortunately really there. Really there. Trouble is mate, you see what is there, you’d be better off with the understanding level of a newt. So me is still mine, minutely. I knew all of that already, but here’s your bucks anyway.

So I’m saner than sanity can be. What a fair measure of the damage that being an uber sane observer of my own killing really is, it should have sent me crazy. Being able to think isn’t costless.

Hello Appeal Type Lawyer. I’m so desperate for justice, for damage to be undone. Thank you for running your I believe you script. What a legal actor you are, it drew me in. Oh, do I have hundreds and hundreds of thousands of spare dollars? No, I don’t. Oh, ok then, I’ll piss off.


Come into my room young boy. Why is the nun leaving? Who is that man? Why is he grabbing my head? Can’t breathe. Smothered. That stick bit of him is hurting my throat. Thump. Thump. Keep your yap shut. Say anything I’ll come after you. Scurry away. Hide. Hide. Hide. Where’s my little toy car. Curl up under the covers.


Cook a meal. Say hello to the landlord. Try and make a new friend. Maybe volunteer somewhere. Watch television. Do the washing. Look in the mirror, you are getting old. Hello old friend let’s meet up, have a coffee. Pretend all’s good. Sit on the verandah, stare at the sky. Pretend, pretend, pretend all is good.

He is such a quiet and friendly man. That’s the bit of me I have left.

Fuck them all, the tears are coming again. Fuck the nuns, fuck the priests, I cannot unsee what was done, I cannot unfeel it. I cannot escape it.

My mind IS the Separate fucking Prison.

Sit on the verandah. Stare at the sky.

Flicker bloody depressive ocean of snarling black dogs flicker.

Where is the curtain? I want to draw it across the screen. I want the show to end.

Note from the filtered me:

So that’s just a day in my mind. Actually, it is just a few hours in my mind because that’s how long it took me to write this.

Phew! Let me out of here! It is now three days later. Writing the above left me exhausted. I had to go away and walk on the beach for a bit. It is as I wrote it. I have not, and will not, edit it or pretty it up. It IS my IS. That is the mind I live in. The mind that I want to escape, but cannot break free from.

“The plaintiff has broad-ranging and chronic symptoms of persistent depressive disorder, from which he cannot escape.” If you think that’s a bit of a bummer, I can assure you that it is.

Ok, all of the swearing is done with now. Let’s step outside of my unfiltered mind. Well you can, I can’t. I have never allowed myself to try and write about how I really am, I’ve always done it at a long and safe remove. I feel worn out. The filters are now back in place. Let’s get back to the quiet and correct person who writes for AIM. The quiet person who does not say boo to a fart. The quiet person who is just trying to connect with you.

This was written to take you into my world and the world of some other Survivors, a world where the damage is painfully evident, where the damage can be seen, and where the damage in the sense of where the written word can possibly take you can be personally experienced and felt by you. Where the stultifying, spirit-killing, depressive weightiness of the crushing nature of the damage can be personally experienced and felt by you.

You’ve had a brief taste of it. Not pleasant I’m sure. Well many of us Survivors have eaten that particular sandwich for the whole of our lifetimes, and I am immeasurably unhappy with the fact that for me and others it has been so. It started for me when I was five years old, and I am now sixty-seven years old. What an unthinkable reach of time that is.

I’m a Survivor who was damaged by both men and women, by the Sisters of Mercy and the priests that they brought in to say mass. Not all Survivors have had my experiences, and I have not had all of the experiences of all other Survivors. Other Survivors have their own unique lived variation of most of the above, and I am not saying that they all have a movie playing across the inside of their forehead like I do. For me, the movie is on constant re-loop, permanently flickering away, and that is the only way I can explain it to you.

So now, the you that is out there with this article in your hand, can now perhaps truly understand why it is that we Survivors so strongly pursue justice. And don’t forget that we get out there and try to lead at least a semblance of a normal life. We give it a go. We try our best.



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  1. Baby Jewels

    No words. Other than, I’m so sorry this happened to you and others. I’m sure it doesn’t help to hear it, but I am. No punishment is great enough for these predators so there’s no justice. I’ve never known anyone who thought you were “whingers or worse.” Thank you for telling it like it is. Don’t give up persuing happiness. I hope you find it.

  2. New England Cocky

    My sincere sympathy for your painful life experiences that no child should suffer.

    Perhaps the optimum solution to this problem would be to remove all tax deductibility benefits from every organisation that has declined to act to protect their young people. This would assist balancing the national budget after the bushfires and likely force the perpetrators elsewhere.

    There is no excuse, civil or religious, for child abuse of any kind.

  3. Keitha Granville

    How can I respond through the tears in my eyes for the sodding injustice of it all ?

    Thank you for the unedited moments of your daily life.

    I can easily say I feel for you, I grieve for your suffering, but that doesn’t help you one iota.

    All we can do, those of us who have never been YOU, is help with your fight. Any of us who doesn’t is as bad as the perpetrators.

  4. Sit Scotchmistery

    Fucking hell

  5. Josephus

    This is hell become a poem. Yes you make your hell come nauseatingly alive.
    Recently a medical person dismissed the domestic violence I suffered. Lip service to Rosie Battie. So , natural justice , medical staff and lawyers, not always an oxymoron but moron more likely.
    Scream , do not go gentle into that dark night Keith.

  6. the church is a criminal organisation

    Keith, I am 60, I am considering giving this to a couple of close people to read, (not my children,) your reality at the hands of these monsters was worse than mine, I copped some of it, and witnessed more of it, I was at a primary school attached to an orphanage.

    I spoke of this less than a handful of times in my life, firstly to my father who took me back to the school to be caned for lying, I hated him till he died, though his death 17 years ago brought no peace, I still curse the prick, Then to a psychologist who encouraged me to go speak to the RCs own inquiry chair Peter O’Callaghan QC, his office was in a large very busy fucking serviced office building, there was no discretion it felt like everyone could see it on me, as you describe here,

    One thing I have in absolute common is the checking out every person walking towards me walking past me when I am on a seat in a cafe, checking if they are a threat, it makes no difference man or woman, some nuns were worse than any brother or priest

    Keith I feel it was courageous of you to type this, I doubt it was cathartic, my nightmares rarely stop, various partners have said as I fall asleep and in the first few minutes of sleep that I yell at people with phrases such “I will kill you you fucking arsehole” I have no memory of this, and whilst I am conscious of having had a nightmare waking sweating heart racing, I rarely remember what it was.

    Keep looking for peace Keith, I still am

  7. Topenda

    Keith, I imagine you’re feeling very vulnerable after writing this out and then publishing it. I want you to know that I read every word, and I believe every word. I don’t know you, but I hate that you live this never-ending nightmare of soul torture.

    I doubt platitudes and sympathy will bring you any relief, so I won’t offer them. What I can say, though, is that if I could take your pain away, I would. If I could reverse it, I would. If I could prevent it from ever having happened in the first place, I would. I only hope that at some point you find peace and respite.

  8. Adnil

    I have no words I could possibly say that could ever take away the unimaginable horrific childhood you had to live with. Your powerful words moved me to tears. I’m filled with rage knowing you and so many other children suffered at the hands of these predators.
    These religious freaks have been able to get away with all these despicable and criminal acts for far too long. But I guess if they confess their sins, say 3 hail marys, all is forgiven. Maybe, just maybe, the recent Royal commission did expose the evil acts of so called christians. If there’s a hell, may they rot in it.

  9. Michael Taylor

    Unimaginable, Keith. So horrific. You are one brave man.

  10. Anne Byam

    A harsh, meticulous, unbending and tragic story … I laud you for having the guts to write it, and just hope in some way it has been cathartic for you to do so.

    Believe me or not, I do know what it is like to be molested / interfered with at a tender age, over quite a few years. I could tell no-one, and was literally unable to utter the perps name until my mid-thirties. I also understand the initial response you have to others – that of automatic distrust. I sure understand that one.

    Offering only perhaps a tiny scrap of empathy and understanding by sharing the above with you.

    There is perhaps one thing you might not have tried in your battle with demons that demonstrate daily in your mind. … and it is this – embrace the memories. Accept them, while seeking the justice you and others totally deserve in every respect. This might sound unsympathetic or cruel of me, however, it is not. Allowing some, if not the full impact of vile and abominable experiences to come to the fore, in acceptance by you, will bring a measure of peace. It is however, not an overall ‘fixit’ solution. It’s an aid to better health and a decline in the sense of victimisation that so many who have endured these ghastly things, so very often feel. It is best done I think ( not sure ) with the listening ear of a good counsellor.

    I do have copy of a few words I found on “Psychology Today” which I am happy to post, reference the above, if you want to read them. It is your choice.

    I wish you well, in endless ways Keith …

  11. DrakeN

    I have referenced your article to my godbothering offspring who have great “faith” in the inherent goodness of “god’s representatives on Earth”.

    They won’t reply; they generally consider that I am not worthy of their interest.

    Evil person of no “Faith”.

  12. Maureen

    If there were a God, he would protect his children. There were so many like you and he did nothing. Those priests and nuns were/are monsters.

  13. Stephengb

    I have no way to even begin to feel the pain you have, and still do, but I am pleased that you have had the courage to explain in terms that shocked me.

    No one can ease you pain.

    But thank you for sharing

  14. wam

    “You are a beautiful man, and I love you. Am I? Did you?”
    Yes keith we do. Your words show that you truly are a beautiful man who shares through the damage..
    Will truth answer your memory, your pain and protect others?
    Truth is malleable
    truth is temporary
    honesty is permanent.

  15. Sandy Q

    As far as I’m concerned Keith you write what you want to write anytime you like because you are the expert of your experience!

  16. Bon de Veire

    Bravo bravo. Amazing piece of writing from the inside of your beautiful intelligent articulate thinking raging head. Hugely courageous of you to share your tender heart. Your murderous rage. I wish you peace. I’d remove such pain if I could, but as things go please accept some love, given with all my respect as a drop in the ocean of your life. Lynne

  17. Keith Davis

    Thursday. Sitting here at the keyboard, looking out the window, looking at the view. I thank all of you for your comments. I, and others like me, appreciate what you have to say. I, and others, appreciate the fact that an honest exposure of the lives that we live does not scare you or drive you away.

    The words I wrote above totally show who I am, the damage that I carry, and how I feel about everything associated with it. In one way, for me, the article is the end point of a journey towards openness on the matter of the legacy of childhood sexual abuse, as it affects me and affects others, that both AIMN and 2020socialjustice afforded me.

    Initially I wrote at a remove, in the past, because I was battling against fear of what my children, or my friends, or even total strangers would think of me. Fear is a very powerful thing, and it can often stay the hand even when being on the cusp of ‘just being who you are’ is oh so close. Michael and Carol Taylor of AIMN, and Joan Beckwith of 2020socialjustice, created a written word space where I could finally make that fearless leap across to openness. In life, we are not often afforded such wonderful spaces to leap into. I thank the three of them with all my heart.

    I have said everything now that I could ever possibly say about the issue of childhood sexual abuse. Anything further now, unless it is attendant to another issue, would be a regurgitation of the content of the above article, it would become a repetitive drumbeat which I have no wish to create or inflict on you. My article, finally, says everything that I wanted, and have, to say. In the background I’m beavering away on the book and exploring further legal avenues … and all of that can just unfold as it will.

    I will continue to write for AIMN, on both matters serious and quirky. I always look forward to that!

  18. Joan B Beckwith

    In relation to our connection through 2020socialjustice, Keith, I greatly value the ‘from the heart’ quality of your writing, in this particular article and in general. Social justice, as I see the struggle, starts with truth-telling and proceeds through a journey that links the personal and the political. Your writing reaches across domains that are too often separated. From the comments here and elsewhere, it’s clearly appreciated by others who have been abused and it’s also a call-out to never ever ever give up on the social change needed to keep children abuse-free

  19. Merrin

    Keith, thank you for your unfiltered thoughts, memories and feelings. I sincerely hope it helps you in some way to have done this. The torture and abuse inflicted upon you is beyond my understanding in it’s sickening evil.
    I’m glad you’re still standing. I cry for what you endured then, and still do, and there’s rage in my heart against the perpetrators of such heinous acts on a defenceless child.
    I hope you find a way to turn the movies off. I hope you keep kicking those black dogs until they leave you alone. And I hope you find peace.

  20. Janine P

    I know what you are talking about.
    My sister knew even more.
    Reverence to you.
    Your writing is from the prison place.
    Get the fuck out of there.

  21. Keith Davis

    AIMN reaches real people!

    Incredible. Raw, gut wrenching. Tells it as it is.
    If you think this is over done then you have missed what it is saying.
    Kudos to the writer for the expose.

    You made me think so much of my own childhood, bits and pieces are still locked away and my own movie is only “the director’s cut” because I won’t open the dam…but whatever gods are really out there, maybe they’ll be kind when the dam bursts.
    Never before have I been able to relate so much to someone just in written word and the chaos of this thought process is all too real and no one else really seems to get it but even after all my years of abuse I’m still waiting for people to hurt me.

    Do they not have the imagination to consider how it would feel and what the impact might be if it was them????? I find such ignorance as claimed by such clergy to be IN-credible! It is yet another source of anger the minimisation and dismissal of the damage.

    Wow not for the faint hearted. Raw and real. How can one heal with this movie playing over. Searching for peace of mind…

    Oh god this is all to real. This is how it is for us.

    I’m glad you had the guts to write your story. Thank you for putting the real ‘reality’ out here!

    Yes I do have the guts to hear your truth and acknowledge that it happened.

    I”ve been to the flicks too. Different movie cinema different movie same genre.
    I also own a black dog or two.
    I am sorry for your movie going experience.

  22. Bee

    Thank you Keith

  23. Jenifer whitwam

    I also say thank you. Take our collective strengths with you. Our reading the words is not going to give us the feel but hopefully understanding.

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