Sexual assault: ask the right questions or you’re part of the problem
There was a brief spat on Twitter this morning with a couple of men who thought the question to ask about the fourteen-year-old girl raped in a Geelong Park at 4 a.m. was, what we her parents thinking, letting her out at that time in the morning?
The attitude persists that girls and women must restrict our lives to protect ourselves from sexual assault, rather than the obvious solution, which is that men must not rape us.
The one good thing to emerge so far from this awful event are the words of Detective Senior Sergeant Jason Walsh, from Victoria Police’s Sexual Crime Squad, who expressed regret and amazement that people feel free to question a sexual assault victim’s actions, when what ought to be under scrutiny are the actions of perpetrators.
I find it amazing, he said, without getting into politics, that we question girls and we question their behaviour when we don’t even ask, ‘what’s four blokes out doing, allegedly sexually assaulting a young girl?’
“You know, that’s my take on that sort of question, and I’ve been in this sexual assault field for many years, and I find it amazing that people straight away question females for their actions, and they’re not questioning the males. I mean, what are four males doing allegedly sexually assaulting a young girl? That’s a question I’d ask.”
The self-serving myth that women “ask for it” one way or another is still pervasive, an estimated 70% of sexual assaults are not reported, of those that are reported only a minuscule number actually make it to court and even less result in convictions. The court process can be so horrendous for the victim that it’s frequently described as “being raped again,” and I recently read a paper written by Kylie Weston-Scheuber, Supervising Lawyer, Sexual Offences Unit, Office of the DPP (ACT) in which she states that should she find herself a victim of sexual assault, there are days she has doubts about whether she’d subject herself to the trauma of court proceedings.
Ms Weston-Scheuber also comments on the popular notion that women make this stuff up, by pointing out that the court process is so grueling, in itself it ought to be evidence that the woman has suffered sexual assault because nobody would subject themselves to the trauma without extremely good reason:
…the trauma and indignity of giving evidence in a sexual assault trial is the strongest disincentive imaginable to continuing with a fabricated sexual assault allegation. However, the law precludes the prosecution from even raising the spectre of this feature of a witness’s evidence, which might be thought to be strongly corroborative.
Of course, the reality that many complaints don’t go to court doesn’t mean a victim wasn’t sexually assaulted, and it doesn’t mean the alleged perpetrator is innocent. While the victim doesn’t have her chance at justice, however traumatising that chance can be, neither does the alleged perpetrator have the chance to clear his name. He remains, for the rest of his life, an alleged perpetrator of sexual assault. Insufficient evidence, or the victim withdrawing out of fear of ongoing traumatisation, does not equate to exoneration of guilt.
There is something terribly awry with a system that causes sexual assault victims to be further traumatised in their fight for justice. However, it is within such a system that questioning the victim’s responsibility for the suffering inflicted on her by the perpetrator is still regarded by some as legitimate. So if you do ask why she was in the park, drunk, wearing a short dress or whatever victim-blaming inquiry you come up with, perhaps you need to ask yourself, why am I blaming her?
This article was originally published on No Place For Sheep.
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Return to home pageJennifer, I read your article with a heavy heart. Sometimes it sucks to be a woman.
I have been embroiled in a similar twitter storm today. For those who may claim that feminism is redundant, I give you…
@LOOVKUSH: @TarekFatah @Itsazoo2 complete nakedness and burka both are extremes and both defines women as objects.
Have we come a long way, Baby?
The whole discussion of gender equality, like so many equality issues, is constantly framed by tired old white men.
The new Canadian PM had his government sworn in with 50% female representation. A puerile media immediately questioned his judgement and seemed incapable of understanding his response – “It’s 2015”. Our ‘leader’ says were not ready for it.
Ireland recently made the news for accepting marriage equality, which was lauded as a departure from the traditional Catholic stranglehold on government policy. This is the country that agonised over the divorce debate some mere decades ago. Most recently, the rights of women have come into conflict with the church over abortion, a subject on which Ireland still remains in the dark ages, thanks to the tired old white men of the church and government.
http://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-11-07/irish-women-tweet-details-of-periods-to-pm-in-abortion-row/6920908
Another article on ABC relates to an appearance by two extraordinary young people, Malala Yousafzai and Emma Watson. It is well worth a read. One part in particular has relevance in this conversation;
“My father, he has set an example for all parents and all men that if we want equality and equal rights for women then men have to step forward,” she said.
“If we complain that women don’t get equality, don’t get equal rights, it means all the things are taken by men so they need to step back and say ‘we are here to support’.
http://www.abc.net.au/news/2015-11-06/emma-watson-inspired-malala-yousafzai-to-call-herself-a-feminist/6920114
Australia has cemented victim blaming into its psyche, thanks to tired old white men. I remain optimistic that our youth know better. Thank you Ms Wilson. Take care
“The whole discussion of gender equality, like so many equality issues, is constantly framed by tired old white men.”
Kyran, I know this is most often true but ‘tired old white women’ can be just as bad. I went through a victims of crime compensation case with a friend and the woman judge said the most unbelievably untrue and terrible things. Extreme victim blaming type things. It is not her system but women in these systems designed by men can be just as bad…..maybe even worse. Women being terribly judgemental and cruel is not uncommon. Hopefully things are changing for the better with the attitudes of members of all sexes.
My bad CtGD, I didn’t express it very well. My premise was that the discussions are framed by tired old white men. Not that sycophants are always male. Have a look at the female ministers in the current government.
The lass who started the twitter campaign in Ireland was interviewed by the BBC, which was replayed on RN late this morning. Sect 8 of the Irish constitution makes abortion illegal except under the most extreme of circumstances. She sent a tweet to the Taoiseach about her menstrual cycle, just to let him know about her situation. Based on the constitution, he can dictate her decisions regardless of her situation. It went viral after that.
Being judgemental or cruel is not gender exclusive. Neither is being right or wrong. Maybe we are both in furious agreement with Ms Wilson. Justice should never be left to chance, and it most certainly shouldn’t be different because of your gender. Or any other criteria. Take care